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The Science of Resilience: Rewiring Your Brain for Success

• Morice Mabry • Season 1 • Episode 19

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Ever puzzled over the mysteries of the mind or how to fine-tune your brain for peak performance? 👀 Coach D, a neuro-encoding specialist, joins us to share her groundbreaking approach that side-steps medication and dives straight into the power of lifestyle changes. 🧠💪 With her blend of Houston charm and Polish grit, she unveils the tools needed to reshape your cognitive landscape, discussing the pivotal roles of nutrition, exercise, and understanding our brain's anatomy in combating psychological conditions.

Gratitude isn't just a warm feeling; it's a brain-changer. 🙏 This episode peels back the layers of how a deep sense of thankfulness can soothe our nervous system and rewire our thought patterns. Coach D reveals the strategies that have helped many conquer the daunting fear of failure, emphasizing how tweaking our body language and mental self-talk can transform our internal dialogue. 🔄 We celebrate the victories, both big and small, of those who have dared to redefine success and, in doing so, have unlocked emotional freedom. 🎉

Wrapping up our discussion, we get personal, as I recount my journey through adversity, from a facade of success to genuine fulfillment. By merging principles of neuropsychiatry and neuropsychology, we demonstrate the scientific foundations that support the life-altering coaching techniques employed. 🧬🧠 As we say goodbye, I extend a heartfelt thank you for joining this enlightening session, and encourage you to partake in our community for continuous growth. 🌱💫 Together, we are a force of resilience and transformation. 💪✨


Speaker 1:

Welcome to the let's Think About it podcast, where we embark on a journey of thoughtfulness and personal growth. I'm your host, coach Mo, and I'm here to guide you through thought-promoting discussions that will inspire you to unlock your full potential. In each episode, we'll explore a wide range of topics, from self-discovery and mindfulness to goal-setting and achieving success. Together, we'll challenge conventional thinking and dive deep into the realms of possibility. Whether you're looking to find clarity in your personal or professional life, or seeking strategies to overcome obstacles, this podcast is your go-to source for insightful conversations and practical advice. So find a comfortable spot, chill and let's embark on this journey of self-improvement together. Remember, the power of transformation lies within you, and together we'll uncover the tools and insights you need to make it happen. So let's dive in. Welcome to another let's Think About it podcast. I'm your host, coach Mo, and I'm here with another amazing guest. Her name is Coach D, the famous, the one and only the brain. Coach D, what's up?

Speaker 2:

Hello, hello. What can I say? Yes, the one, and only yes, the famous Keep it coming, keep it coming. So my name is even more.

Speaker 1:

That's right. That's right. First you got to tell us where you coming in from.

Speaker 2:

I'm in Houston, texas, and I'm a girl that just jumps around different cities when I coach and train and work with companies, but right now Houston Texas is home.

Speaker 1:

Born and raised.

Speaker 2:

Oh heck. No, I'm Polish. I'm the original Eastern European lady with the Polish Eastern European attitude and a lot of love.

Speaker 1:

I love it, I love it, I love it. So tell us, let's jump right into this. I'm an action guy and you're a brain coach, dee. What is that? What does brain coaching do?

Speaker 2:

I'm an elite neuro-encoding specialist and a brain coach Two things that are combined for optimizing your brain so we can close the gap based on science, get you from point where you are, where you want to be, in the quickest way, without medication. It works for procrastination, hesitation, fear of failure, fear of success, self-doubt, self-loathing, anxiety, depression, ptsd, recreating your life if you have ADHD, overwhelm, procrastination and few other things that are possible to be treated without medication and brain coaching. I've been trained by Dr Daniel Amen a mix of neuroscience, knowledge about what's basal ganglia, what's prefrontal cortex and what they do, knowing which exercises stimulate what, understanding how blood work influences your brain and looking at your blood work, because maybe you're not depressed, maybe you just need to up level and optimize, put it at an optimum level your blood work. Maybe you are having problems with concentrations because your hormones are off and although I don't treat that, I understand that I can direct you to the right doctor that can optimize the levels. It is also coaching approach and psychology, and especially neuropsychology, and that's where neuro encoding comes in, which I'm trained by Dr Joseph McClendon, the third, the phenomenal, the one head trainer for Tony Robbins, and he's my guru and he created the Neuron Coding Institute and he trained me in that.

Speaker 2:

So it's also collect, understanding that your body is connected to your heart, where we already know from HeartMath Institute that we can change your brain weights with your heart and change your physical reactions and the cocktails of hormones and chemicals that you release, because you're an addict I don't know if you're addicted to your feelings so we can do that, we can interrupt that, we can actually optimize. Imagine not feeling anxiety, not feeling hesitation, not feeling procrastination, any type of fear, self-doubt, self-loathing all of those feelings are neural pathways in your brain and because we understand when you get stuck and you keep rewinding those things over and you're exhausted guess what? We can change that. And we can change that with very simple exercises, with food that you eat, which is crucial in your brain health, because guess what?

Speaker 2:

The CEO of your life is your freaking brain that's right besides what you're thinking, what you're doing, what you're saying, what you're looking at, how you react, how you feel, how your heart functions, everything and you know something.

Speaker 1:

this is why I'm happy you're here. You know why I'm happy you're here. This is the start of mental awareness month. Oh, yes, it is, and you're dropping nuggets, and so I love that. I love that, right. So the concept around neural recording, brain coaching like how does that start to? How do you help a person shift their thought process? Even to reach out for you for that type of support in those areas, because people may have a misconception around what a brain coach is.

Speaker 2:

I'm not going to convince you. You need to be uncomfortable. You need to say to yourself OK, I'm done. For example, I had a girl who came to me and they said you need to take anxiety medication. She goes can you do something about that? I don't want to go on medication. I'm like are you in an acute state? Are you suicidal? We went through the whole thing. She goes she was fine. She just had huge anxiety to the point where she would go in a public place and she would either throw up or faint. That's how bad it was. And they said you need to go on medication. I'm like do you want to give me a try, because she came to me? She goes I will try anything. I'm like okay, and that's first thing.

Speaker 2:

Coaching, brain coaching, neuron coding nothing works unless you choose it for you to work, because after age of 25, our neuroplasticity changes. It's not automatic. It has to be directed and chosen by you for your brain to rewire. And just to be very clear it's not a mental health month, it's a brain health month. If your brain is not healthy, you are making bad decisions, you are taking drugs. If your brain is not healthy, you have anxiety, you have fear, you have panic attacks.

Speaker 2:

All of that comes from your brain, so that person you know that they're ready and they're done with their life, that there is a gap, that they want to be a person who goes out and enjoys spending time with people, and she was so. We looked at her habits, her time outside her visceral system, we looked at the circadian rhythms. We looked at her brain. We did some assessments. We looked at the circadian rhythms. We looked at her brain, we did some assessments. We looked at the food she ate, the type of movement she did, what was triggering her anxiety, and we took all of that and created exercises that she did daily and checked in with me, because with me you work once a week, but we check in during the week to make sure you're on track, because the goal is that you're going to have a new behavioral pattern. Your brain creates patterns the time without you knowing about it, and the keys to realize. So we did all of those and after about a I think it was three weeks she calls me Dominica. I'm like what. It didn't faint, didn't faint where, because I was doing something, I went to a networking meeting. I'm like what. It didn't faint, it didn't faint where, because I was doing something, I went to a networking meeting. I didn't throw up, I didn't faint. I'm like fantastic, let's celebrate. So we celebrated and it took about another four weeks when I get another text. Of course we were meeting in between time, so I was seeing the progress. But it's not me who needs to see the progress, it's you. When you're working with it and she texts me, coach D, I'm like what? I spoke to five people. It was amazing. And then we just reinforced that and made sure we celebrated those wins and guess what? Medication was never needed. She went to a psychiatrist and goes are you ready? She goes I think I'm good. Goes, what do you mean? You're good? I had coaching, exactly and you know what and what's amazing, seeing psychiatrists and they're going. There are a lot of people who say they're depressed and they come to me and I I literally saw four different psychiatrists, board certified in different areas and they go. We prescribe the mirror exercise. I prescribed the mirror exercise and basically it turned out they weren't depressed, they just needed some dopamine release and they were doing just fine. So they weren't my client anymore and I'm like duh. We coaches have been doing the mirror exercise for the last at least 10 years.

Speaker 2:

Welcome the psychiatry, because depression is not really a depression. Now, don't get me wrong. There is clinical depression that needs medication. Brain coaching will not really help at the beginning, later on maybe, and there are certain types of depressions that do need assistance of medication, just to be very clear.

Speaker 2:

But a lot of people feel down, feel low, feel sad, and those things can be mitigated. And also, hey guys, life is just a beautiful flower that has all the different colors and bouquets. You do need to feel down, you do need to be soft, you do need to be angry, you do need to be frustrated and you do need to be in love and happy and have anxiety to be frustrated and you do need to be in love and happy and have anxiety. The question is, are you staying there and living in those moments and you create habits and behaviors and you get the secondary gain People who are always unhappy. What happens is people of good hearts gather around them and they create connection. But that connection is fake connection because it's built on the neediness. Those people are afraid, if I will not say that I'm unhappy, will they come or will I be alone, and it becomes a relationship that is destroying everybody around. But that's a different conversation.

Speaker 2:

Anyway, brain coaching. It is using science, knowledge of your brain, blood work, understanding the hormones. What influences? Hey, if you say you have ADHD, have you checked for gut inflammation? Because if you have gut inflammation that might present as ADHD and you don't have ADHD, and if you have tunnel concentration, it doesn't mean you have ADHD, because people without ADHD also can do that. Notice all the kids around the world when they're playing their favorite video game. Hours can pass and they're not noticing. Not all of them have ADHD.

Speaker 2:

Anyway, neuroencoding is the technique that we use to break the pattern, to decipher, or EMDR, even right, to connect feelings with the event. So you can still remember the event but not get triggered. And the truth is, every time you get triggered, that means there's something unhealed in you. It's not the world around you, it is something that you didn't heal you and that's an information. There are no bad feelings. I was having a chat today. There are no bad feelings. There are no negative feelings. They don't exist. All feelings are information systems that something is off, that something is not working, that something happened before, that you might have a belief or your brain is processing some information in a different way. It's an informational system the moment we stop hanging our lives on those informations and start actually, yes, at information. It's a whole new world, welcome.

Speaker 1:

You know what. It's funny in what you're saying. You know how you utilize that is as the trigger to shift into something more positive Gratitude thought. Right, if you feeling like afraid, worried some, and you got this anxiety feeling, maybe that's the first sign to shift your thought and utilize that trigger not as something negative and bad is about to happen. But this is the time that I'm being triggered to do something positive. This is my time to have a gratitude talk. This is my time to take action, whatever that looks like for myself. But my question to you is how relevant is gratitude into your whole? Oh, it's helping people getting through fear and things like that.

Speaker 2:

So gratitude change and so gratitude is not really relevant into getting out of fear, because that needs a different physical pattern, interrupt and different, a little bit different techniques Although I'm not saying it doesn't work, I don't use it that way, but gratitude has been. They have been checking blood work and brain functioning when people are going into the state of gratitude and it literally does wonders for your brain, including calms down the nervous system, allows your brain to focus more, allows your brain to release more happy cocktails, chemicals, and it allows you to be more. Now the funny thing with gratitude is that people go oh, I'm grateful for my family, I'm grateful for my kids, I'm grateful for my job. That doesn't work. Gratitude and prayer have the same and meditation have the same elements of your brain lighting up and they're both great for you. But you have to really feel it. It cannot be ungrateful, Like people pray over food oh thank you, Lord for that and it's just reciting. It doesn't work.

Speaker 2:

But if you get to the point where you feel ecstasy and you really feel joyful and you can bring those feelings out, it influences your brain and your brain then does wonders for you. So gratitude is also important that when you practice it, you are able to feel it to the full extent with your whole body. So have the proper chemical release to influence your brain and also do not repeat the same things over and over. So what we're teaching our brain is to notice positive things in our life. I'm grateful that man opened the door for me. I'm grateful that lady at a counter smiled at me. I'm grateful that it was a beautiful day outside and I had the chance to sit outside for 15 minutes Now.

Speaker 2:

Every day we change those, what we do. We retrain our mind to look for things that we can be grateful for and at the end of the day, it's funny because people go. Today I had a client. She goes I had a horrible day, it was a bad day. I'm like, tell me about it. I was driving to a doctor and then there was an accident and I was late, but they still took me in.

Speaker 2:

So what was horrible about that? They took you in. It wasn't horrible, okay. So what else happened? I forgot a coffee maker, okay, and the Starbucks they made at Starbucks was horrible. I'm like, okay, so you're telling me your whole day was horrible, that you got into a doctor, you were late, but they took you in. You forgot a creamer and your Starbucks was horrible, correct? And when she heard that, she started laughing. She goes no, it wasn't. So how else can you name this? Because your brain, my brain, every brain, is designed to love everything together and notice that when something good happens, we don't go around telling everybody something good happened, but when something happens that ticks us off, we literally talk about it for days, remembering, refilling. We literally hurt ourselves without knowing.

Speaker 1:

Let's say very fearful mindset, Okay, and fear of failure. Let's just say that as a as a as a topic for the sake of this question someone that's fear of failure, what are some tips that you can give a person that they can implement right now to help them overcome, or steps that to overcome the fear of the fear of failure?

Speaker 2:

First of all, fear is a physical reaction. So I want you to notice how you're sitting, how you're breathing and, when you feel that you're coming, change your breathing, change the way you sit, possibly stand up. If you ever heard of power pose, it works great. Go to a closet restroom, stall whatever, lock yourself in and do the power pose for three minutes.

Speaker 1:

That's one thing.

Speaker 2:

Second thing you need to prove to your brain that it's lying to you, and your brain lies to you on a daily basis. It will always prove right, but it will always lie to you. So what I mean by?

Speaker 1:

that Flawed element of thought appearing to be real, flawed element of thought appearing to be real. That's what I characterize as fear. But I'm sorry, I didn't mean to interject, but You're good.

Speaker 2:

You're good. So what I want you to do is, when you feel that, I want you to tell your brain okay, when did I fail in life? And I want you to bring back all the memories of failure and then ask yourself and what happened next? The answer is absolutely nothing. You need to decipher that feeling from a logical perspective, not only from the emotional, behavioral and physical, but also from logical. Your brain needs proof for everything. You need to prove to your brain that it's BSing you. So I can't, I'm a failure. Okay, what does a failure mean?

Speaker 2:

It's like I had a client, a gentleman, and he kept saying that he's a failure. So we went into conversation. What's a failure? So we went into conversation. What's a failure? What's your definition of failure? Because everybody has a different definition.

Speaker 2:

It turned out that, in his mind, anybody who doesn't have a regular job is a failure. I'm like, okay, and why do you need a regular job? Because I need to support my wife, I need to pay the bills, I need this and that. I'm like, okay, I understand, that's very good. And when was the last time you didn't pay your bills? What do you mean? I'm paying my bills? Oh, okay, were you able to take your wife lately on a date? Yeah, we go out once a week, oh, okay.

Speaker 2:

And we started going and I'm like, okay, so having a stable job means paying those bills. Are you doing that? I am, and it was his epiphany going okay, so maybe I'm not a failure. Now, does he meet this regular standards of living? Probably not. But he realized that his definition was flawed and every time you feel something and if you don't want to feel it, we need to prove to ourselves that the definition is flawed so we can readjust the definition. There was another gentleman who believed that you're a failure if you're not making $1 million a year. He was making $850,000. That was a little bit more challenging, but we also did dismantling that belief and connecting that to a feeling. And then it takes repetition it's not one repetition.

Speaker 1:

I agree, because we carry that story in our mind and we believe that story to be true and we live through that story and sometimes that story can be so strong that we ignore the facts that go against that story in our mind. We're so locked in the way that I see it is the only way to see it. If it's that way, that's how I got to live my life, that's how I got to move, and that requires that fear of being present. I'm okay with the fear because that's the story I believe in my head.

Speaker 2:

See, fear is also a protective mechanism, because usually fear of failure is not really fear of failure. Fear of failure is the fear of being rejected or not being loved.

Speaker 2:

And that's the fear under fear, and we all want to be loved. We all want to feel like we belong and we all want to be a part of something If you admit to it or not either your dog, your friend, your community, whatever that might be. Loneliness is the biggest killer of all people and actually there are some studies now showing that some people about 12% of population of the world will never feel belonging because of their brain structures. It's impossible for them to feel it. Now, with that you need to create, you need a scan, and so it's not like you can ask you questions. You'll know there are brain scans that will show you that potentially there are a few studies that are showing that there are certain structures in the brain. If they're underdeveloped, you're unable to feel belonging and loneliness is your predominant feeling. See your brain, for example anterior cingulate or basal ganglia. They have their functions and they are like gear shifters. For example, if you're very much in your logic and thinking and planning, so your prefrontal cortex is working. If you damage that, for example, and adrenaline overrides, then you're a person who's looking for thrills and those thrills are basically underdevelop your prefrontal cortex. So there are ways we can mitigate that we can make it work for somebody.

Speaker 2:

Sometimes medication is necessary, but very often supplements and lifestyle changes in food. Which food is so important in brain health? So important guys? Lack of movement and wrong food can literally change your life for the worse. Movement is absolutely necessary. Circadian rhythms, taking into consideration being outside for 30, 40 minutes a day, 20 at least in the morning, are so important for your brain for everything to function the food you eat. How much sugar? I'm not going to be purist here. I drink one coffee a day. I like coffee, but I'm not going to.

Speaker 2:

Alcohol it kills your brain cells period. It makes your little vessels even smaller. You're not getting enough oxygen into your brain, and that's not good. There are scans of people who have been drinking for a long time where you literally see holes in their brain, which means there's no oxygen and no functioning of that area of the brain. The beautiful thing about the brain is one of the few organs in your body that can regenerate.

Speaker 1:

What would be your recommendation? What would be the recommendation?

Speaker 2:

I'm not saying get rid of all the processed foods, but definitely get rid of chips. Get rid of fast foods. Those two things. If you must drink a fizzy, drink a soft drink, have it once a week. If you must have fast food, have it once a week. Do not have that on a daily basis. There is no nutritional value. Meat, even potatoes, are better, but not french fries. Reduce the number of bad fats, include.

Speaker 2:

If you don't like vegetables I, for example, doubt my girls eating vegetables. I would make and I still make cauliflower pancakes and from all the greens I make pancakes. There are different versions. You can serve that. There are ways to prepare that. That it's good, that it's fun. Meat is important, but then if you really don't like meat, try proteins in a different way, right. So make sure that you are eating something that is fueling you, because if you eat good food, you will eat less.

Speaker 2:

Now the sad part is about our brain, that the size of your brain correlates with your weight. The more obese you are, the smaller your brain is. Now it's not going to shrink into the size, but comparatively compared to people of a normal weight. And it's not about being skinny. It's not even about BMI. Right now, waist to hip ratio is way better option for all races and all types of people than BMI, but it is important that you keep your weight under control. It is for your brain, for the decision-making skills. For and don't get me wrong, there are some people that are struggling for and, don't get me wrong, there are some people that are struggling, that are trying that are sick and they have problems with metabolism.

Speaker 2:

But that is all a part of your brain health and there's not much I can say. I'm not shaming anybody. I literally, if I would not live the way I live, I would be 50 pounds heavier. But since I remember, I walk four times a week five miles. I go and make sure don't eat after 5pm. I try as much as I can to have balanced meals and if I want a snack I have a fruit. I do absolutely everything in my power to at least keep it not into, not to go into, obesity, even if I'm two extra pounds and I'm not skinny. I'm so cold, curvy, thick, whatever, but I am still around size 12. Right, so it's not about being skinny, because being too skinny is not good either. And if you see a woman with abs, most likely her mental health is not doing too well, because this is not something women can sustain for a long period of time. We're not built that way.

Speaker 2:

But that's fitness. You can talk to fitness people about that, but it does have influence on your brain. So everything in moderation. Go outside, go for a freaking walk with a dog instead of having I don't know grits and like when I go to breakfasts. I literally can't find anything that's sausages, eggs, grits and something I'm like. Where's the part in that? Create your own healthy, read what you like and create your own breakfast. It's not about having what everybody else is having. So that's one part. Your brain health, your mental health it is directly correlated. Also, as Les Brown says, you become who you surround yourself with. You're surrounded by people who are taking drugs, doing bad things, not going to work, being defiant, whatever else. This is your environment. Your brain is being fed constantly that this is OK and it starts to adjust. You don't?

Speaker 2:

want to adjust to that. You win when you choose what's good for you and you know what's good for you. It doesn't say it's easy Grit is something that is not easy, but it pays. And it's not about hard work, it's about smart work. It's about being people who inspire you and not comparing yourself, but looking for inspiration. What I want you to do for your brain health and your mental health, I want you to look at yourself. Yesterday, did you do better than yesterday compared to you going to you because you have your own path and celebrate the living heck out of it.

Speaker 1:

Let me ask you this from your coaching style and techniques let's say someone who's struggling with smoking and they want to quit and they just they can't and they're having a hard time and it all goes back to habits and everything like that. How do you help them in that regard?

Speaker 2:

So when it comes to smoking, there's a little bit more, because it's a chemical addiction as well, and I used to be a smoker. Okay, two packs a day, red Marlboro for since I was 16 until I was 38. Okay, OK.

Speaker 2:

And it was probably one of the hardest things I ever did quitting so with smoking. I actually recommend hypnosis and I've seen phenomenal results with hypnosis and then coming to me and we learn something called stop technique and we create new habits. For, instead of that, because we need to know when we smoke, we need to know where was the pleasure, because there is a there's always a pleasure. We do things because we like them. We don't do things because they hurt us. Remember even smoking. We drink because we like that, we smoke because we like that. So, whatever it was, we're looking for those triggers that made you feel good and then we create new patterns, new behaviors for those and I love referring people out to different specialists because that works quicker. My goal is not to have you with me for another five years. I want you to be done and be good and remember that you're an adult, so you will need to choose every day.

Speaker 2:

There was a beautiful conversation running around on Instagram where a man was talking to his fiance and he goes. What happens if I find somebody better after we're married? And she goes, that's all. And he goes. What do you mean? That's all, she goes. Of course you're going to find somebody better. They're going to be always younger women, they're going to be dressed better, they're going to have more energy. They're not going to have wrinkles as I do. What you need to do is choose every day Because there will be somebody better along the way. And that's the same with every addiction.

Speaker 2:

I, for I think five years it took me every day choosing not to smoke. I don't have that thought anymore. It took me five years of going, hey, I didn't smoke yesterday. Awesome, let's make it another day. And then there was this typical situation for me for smoking. I'm like, hey, I can last for five more minutes and then go away. And it was longer and longer, and then about five years and I was like, okay, I'm good. It took me five years of choosing every day not to pick up another.

Speaker 1:

Congratulations. That's's your journey. Tell us, how did you get to say I want to be a brain coach. What was that?

Speaker 2:

oh, that's a long story but give us the short version then short, so as or you don't know, I was born in eastern europe. I'm polish and I lived in a country where happiness and joy is considered a manifestation of stupidity. That is very important. When I was 19, I was in an extremely abusive relationship where I went through everything from rape to gun to my head Very poor choice of men and I had a son with that gentleman, with whom I later on run away because that was Europe. I could do that if I was in Texas. Probably I couldn't, because they would say I'm kidnapping my kid and my son died. My son died at 16 months and then I don't remember two years of my life To hide the pain.

Speaker 2:

I became extremely successful. I was the youngest and the best at everything, invited to media and TV and newspapers, eastern European Union, working with presidents. I did everything you can imagine and people were oh my God, you're so strong, you're so amazing, you're so fantastic, and I would come home and cry every day. I was the most miserable woman in the world. Like most women will pretend to be strong and I know a lot of women listening to this can resonate. We pretend to be strong because we have no other choice and there's nobody else to take that from us so we can go back into our feminine self. At the same time I was also an epileptic, so I would have seizures and people would assume I'm a drug addict, because a poor grandma's seizure on a TV is only presented when people are taking drugs. So automatically people assume I was a drug addict, which I never taken any drugs. I smoked but I didn't take drugs.

Speaker 2:

And then, after my son died, I got married. I had my beautiful baby twins, I got divorced and life just I was like there is no way this is supposed to be life. It sucks. I hate it, I want to die. And I used a psychologist, therapist, therapist.

Speaker 2:

And then I run into a coach and she was phenomenal, because what coaches do? Good coaches, we take you here and now and we pace you into the future. We don't look into the past. The past we cannot change and change how you feel about the past. But we cannot change the past and usually your brain already distorted, generalize everything. But when would? And I have a scientific brain, I have masters of science and sociology and education, postgraduate in HR and I was like but why does it work? She goes, it just does trust me and I was looking for something and then one day, after all the events me healing me working on me four years ago and I was a career coach at that time me working on me four years ago and I was a career coach at that time I stopped doing that. I'm like, okay, maybe I need a different path.

Speaker 2:

And about four or five years ago I ran into something called the brain revolution, which was done with Dr Joseph McClendon the third Tommy Robbins head trainer, phenomenal guy at the Neuron Coding Institute, and Dr Amen. And what they did was I was in love because Dr Amen is a neuropsychiatrist who believes to do everything possible before you go on medication and Dr McClendon isa neuropsychologist and they merged their programs and I fell in love because finally I could understand how I'm helping people. And if somebody would ask me, like I asked my coach, why does it work? I have plenty of backup science studies, stanford. I topped that up with Dr Huberman, who I absolutely love and gives a lot of tips. Very difficult podcast to listen to, but if you're a fanatic like me, you will listen. And I love his voice oh God, his voice is so sexy and I went. Okay, I found my place because I love science and I believe that science is an option for a lot of things. I wanted to understand, for example, a long time ago, why the hell do people pray, what's up with praying and why so many people are looking to collect and be in a church. Because, let's just say, polish church is not very something you want to experience. And science gave me that answer. I know what happens in your brain when you're in church. I know what happens when you're praying, when you're in church. I know why a lot of people who truly believe in God are joyful and the happiest and the most caring and warm people, because it changes your brain literally. Now, other ways to achieve that besides being religious, truly religious and but I found all the answers I needed to go. Ok, there is a chance for me and because of Dr Amen.

Speaker 2:

I used to be on 2000 units of medication for epilepsy. I'm on 500. I was for 23 years on antidepressants because they're automatically prescribed with medication for seizures. I've been off of them for the last four years. No need. I'm on a supplement that's made of saffron and helps me produce dopamine Plus nerd coding, exercising, stop techniques and a few other things that we do. I do it on myself, so I know it works. And imagine waking up every freaking day after being depressed for such a long time and going oh my God, it's going to be a great day. I'm curious what's going to be great today.

Speaker 1:

That's how I wake up. That's how I wake up, that's how I wake up.

Speaker 2:

That's my journey and I've decided that because it's science-based and I feel comfortable talking about it and I feel comfortable studying and I feel grounded in what I'm doing. No, I'm not a doctor, I'm not a psychiatrist, I'm not a therapist, I'm not a psychologist, but I'm phenomenally trained for what I do and I also know my place. So when it's time to pass you on to a doctor, I will yes.

Speaker 2:

Not everything can be done and I would like to invite everybody look for the best version for me, because some things like hoarding I believe there are some phenomenal therapists out there who are phenomenally trained for hoarding. I don't know many coaches that deal with hoarding because it's a very complex issue. If you have bipolar disorder schizophrenia that's definitely a psychiatry. That's not a coaching issue. Now we can teach you some managing techniques, but you need to be managed by a psychiatrist because that does require medication. Understanding the brain-body-heart connection which was given to me, do you know that we finished that training over four years ago and we still have four calls a week with additional training? So I'm definitely I know what I'm doing and I also know if I cannot help you and that happens too and I also know that something the way we feel is just simple things, so we're getting out of the way the simple things.

Speaker 2:

I'll ask you to go into blood work, specific blood work that influences how you feel in your brain, and we're gonna look at it. If it's optimum or is it in the norm, and we're gonna, then I'm gonna say, hey, why don't you talk to your doctor? Because the optimum is here, according to dr amen and you're here. I'm not gonna prescribe anything, but I'm to tell you what is suggested by Dr Amen. We'll run you through some brain assessments. We'll see how your brain is functioning. Maybe you need food adjustment. And it happened to me quite a few times where people came, we did the whole assessment thing and they go. You know what? I don't think I need your help. I'm like I didn't think you did, but it was a simple thing. A simple thing, simple fix. Let's try to find the best way and sometimes what I do doesn't work and there are other people that are phenomenal.

Speaker 2:

Maybe you need ketamine treatment, maybe you need biofeedback, maybe you need neurofeedback, maybe you need oxygenation chamber or you need oxygenation bath that helps you, your brain, to regenerate. There's so many things that we can do with brain coaching and it allows me to give you options and how can my audience find you if someone is interested in your service?

Speaker 2:

your brain coach d everywhere. You can find me on linkedin. You can find me on tick not tiktok instagram. You can find me on facebook under your brain coach d. You can find me on LinkedIn. You can find me on Instagram. You can find me on Facebook under your Brain Coach D. You can also find me under my first and last name, dominika Stanievic, and that's on LinkedIn, facebook and my private Instagram.

Speaker 2:

I'll leave it out of it. And if you're a woman, a special woman, that you're running a business or you're a manager with over four years of experience, there's a special group for you, only for women, where we translate masculine systems into feminine perspective, while enjoying everything that was served to us by men, without bashing them, without hating on them, but taking a lot in and translating into the way we see the world. Because, as Dr Amen says, our brains are different and the brains that created the present systems were male brains. Fantastic brains, amazing. Look how many great things they've created. And it's now time for us to add our perspective. So we have more options how to be leaders in a feminine style, because there are not many women who lead from the guiding perspective, not from the leadership perspective.

Speaker 1:

There it is. We are so blessed. I'm blessed to have you today and receive all of this wisdom. What are some lasting thoughts you'd like to share?

Speaker 2:

I think I have two quotes that I want to share with you. They're not mine, but I think they're very prominent and important. If you are in hell and you're suffering and struggling, keep walking, because even hell has a border. And number two on our own, we can only experience certain amount of joy and happiness. To feel more, start sharing it with others. Thank you, powerful Coach D, I appreciate you sharing it with others.

Speaker 1:

Thank you, Powerful Coach D. I appreciate you. Thank you.

Speaker 2:

I appreciate being your guest, thank you.

Speaker 1:

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