Let's Think About It Podcast

Shattering the Barriers of Limiting Beliefs for a Bold Future

• Morice Mabry • Season 1 • Episode 10

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Ever found yourself shying away from the spotlight, fearful that your success might outshine others? That's just one of the invisible chains I've had to break free from, which I candidly discuss in our latest heart-to-heart chat. Coach Mo here, and this time we're peeling back the layers of our own self-imposed limitations. Through raw personal tales, we confront the gremlins of limiting beliefs, skewed interpretations, and hazardous assumptions. It's a journey to understand why we sabotage our own growth and how we can emerge victorious by harnessing the power of self-awareness and courage. 🌟

As we march together on the path to self-improvement, I'm thrilled to extend a branch of support to each of you. From the enriching wisdom shared on our social media channels to the exclusive insights nestled on my website, there's a treasure trove of resources waiting to empower you. Remember, transformation is a communal affair, and by subscribing, you're joining a supportive network dedicated to mutual advancement. Let's collectively embrace our potential and step boldly into a future where we are the architects of our own destinies. 🚀

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Welcome to the let's Think About it Podcast, where we embark on a journey of thoughtfulness and personal growth. I'm your host, coach Moe, and I'm here to guide you through thought-promoking discussions that will inspire you to unlock your full potential. In each episode, we'll explore a wide range of topics, from self-discovery and mindfulness to goal-setting and achieving success. Together, we'll challenge conventional thinking and dive deep into the realms of possibility. Whether you're looking to find clarity in your personal or professional life, or seeking strategies to overcome obstacles, this podcast is your go-to source for insightful conversations and practical advice. So find a comfortable spot, chill and let's embark on this journey of self-improvement together. Remember, the power of transformation lies within you, and together we'll uncover the tools and insights you need to make it happen. So let's dive in. Today, I'm going to discuss what's limiting your motivation to be the best version of yourself. Now I'm going to point out four key areas that may be limiting you in creating this type of judgment that's keeping you from becoming the best version of yourself. Number one limiting beliefs. Number two interpretations. Number three assumptions. And number four the gremlins that chirpy little voice that keeps you small. So let's jump right into it. Limiting beliefs this is the first area that really gets the best of us. Limiting beliefs are deeply ingrained thoughts, convictions, stereotypes, perceptions that constrain us in some way or another. They typically are developed early in our life, based on our experiences of bringing just certain viewpoints of the past, and these limiting beliefs create self-imposed barriers and restrict our potential from our growth, success or happiness. So think of it like this Really, I'm going to share a story in how a limiting belief affected me as I became an adult. I'm going to go back to the years that when I went off to college, one limiting belief that I had was I needed to hide my successes from my family or my hometown friends so that I can maintain certain relationships and I didn't want them to think I was better than them. So I hid certain successes that I had because when I would come home from college, I didn't want to be viewed as oh, he's better than me. So I eliminated sharing any successes so that I can maintain relationships and just fit in, so that I didn't have the perspective of my friends, family thinking I'm better than them because I was the first to go away to college amongst the people in my family. So that's a limiting belief in how I carry that and that was a viewpoint of how I saw my world at that young age, hiding my successes.

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The next thing I'm going to top on into is interpretations. Well, interpretations are the stories that we tell ourselves that shape our attitude, our emotions, our behaviors, influencing how we interact with others and navigate in our environments. So let's look at the same scenario, right, the same scenario about me. I'm going to college and going home to visit friends and families. What was the story? The interpretation that I was telling myself in that realm, the story that I had in my head was I can't share my accolades because I will be bragging, I would be viewed as I'm better than them. And if I was viewed that way, around my hometown friends and my family, they were had envy towards me and I didn't want that. So the story was never to share your accolades with your friends and family because they're not going to like me and they're going to hate on me because I'm coming across as I'm thinking I'm better than them. That was the story. Crazy, right? But I lived by that story and to the point where you become hesitant. I became hesitant in sharing accolades and successes. That even typically carried over into interviews into. You know, talking about my business and marketing myself just a little bit of a hesitancy, and how I show up to share my achievements and accomplishments. So that's how I kind of carried this story. That's what interpretation does. That's how it starts to limit us.

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The third thing I'm going to talk about is assumptions. Okay, assumptions are beliefs in that because something happened in the past, it would occur again. We heavily rely on the past and when things don't go well, it's easier to predict that it would happen again. Fear is highly present because the fear shows up trying to protect us from embarrassment, guilt, fault or disappointment. So think about this we have certain experiences, certain experiences that may be negative, not favorable, and we carry that with us. We carry that and when something that we feel is a direct alignment of a certain experience that we've had in the past, it's easy to project that it would happen again. And if we're projecting that it would happen again, we limit ourselves from moving forward to being motivated. Fear typically exists in assumptions because the experience that was bad in the past, the fear is trying to protect us from that disappointment happening in the future. It would show up like caution and it's all because of some experience in the past and we're projecting that it would happen in the future.

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Another example tying it to my same scenario the assumption that when I shared certain successes, I didn't get a favorable response. It was just like, yeah, right. Anyway, when I share those experiences with family and friends, right, and so because of that particular experience, I'm projecting that that's the same outcome that I would have any time of success that I wanted to share with my family. That's how I would come across, so I wouldn't share it, because I'm assuming that if I share one of my college's successes, they're not going to rally behind me anyway, so why even share it? That's an assumption, and the thing about assumptions is it hasn't happened yet. So it's easy to try to predict what that outcome is going to be before it actually even happens. But it hasn't happened yet. And that's the crazy thing. Right, we have to live in the moment, because the past has already happened and the future isn't here yet. All there is is right now, and the things that we do right now is what contributes to our tomorrow. And the assumptions is what potentially limits us from a productive, highly effective tomorrow.

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And, lastly, the gremlin. I call this, the negative inner voice chatter. Think of it like this the limiting beliefs, the interpretations and the assumptions, all kind of combined with this voice, this voice that's constantly chirping negatively in your head and is trying to keep you small. It's the constant chirping that makes the worrisome and make you play small. Yeah, that's what it is. It makes you play small. It's just this constant chirp, chirp, chirpy, chirpy. And here's what it sounds. It's like I'm not good enough to apply for that job.

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If I ask that question, people will think I'm dumb, I'm an idiot for thinking I will change their point of view. Why waste my time trying? I'm going to get the same disappointing results anyway. People must think I'm weird or something. Hate the way I look, right, when you're thinking that Gremlin's present, it's chirping. It's the negative chirping of what I'm talking about.

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So let's recap really quick Limiting beliefs, right? These are those ingrained thoughts, convictions, stereotypes that we carry around. Interpretations is the story that we constantly are telling ourselves, that shape our attitudes, our emotions and our behaviors. Then there's the assumptions. The assumptions are these beliefs because something happened in the past, we're thinking it's gonna happen in the future and it's gonna happen again. And then the negative inner voice chatter the Gremlin. It's the combination of limiting beliefs, interpretations, assumptions, with a voice attached to it that's consistently chirping in our head right.

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So the real question is, how do we overcome this? How do we overcome these types of judgments? Well, there's three steps to overcome these adjustments. First is creating awareness. That's number one. Creating awareness, awareness from the moments of experiencing the emotions of fear, worry, doubt, disappointment, anger, insecurity, sadness, lack of trust or any other similar emotions. When you're feeling that in those moments a limiting belief and interpretation, assumption and or Gremlin is present. So that's the trigger right To improve your awareness around when these judgments are present.

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It's a down draining type emotion that you're experiencing and that emotion can be fear, worry, doubt, a disappointment, anger, insecurity, sadness. Any of those types of emotions is the trigger that one of these judgments are present. Number two acknowledge the emotion and understand it's okay to feel that emotion. Then ask yourself how are you gonna move past the emotion to a better state of being Like non-judgment, optimism, confidence, inner peace, win-win perspective, joy, self-truth? So, number one remember, acknowledge the awareness that a draining type emotion is present and how you acknowledge that it's present is the feeling that you have a worrisome worriedness, fear, doubt, insecurity, low trust, any of that. When you're feeling that that means a judgment is present, okay, then the second thing is to acknowledge it, and it's okay that you feel that way because it is your emotion. But then ask yourself, how are you gonna move past that emotion into a better state? And that better state is a non-judgment, confidence, inner peace, win-win perspective, joy and self-truth for yourself. So think of that and then finally, step number three, when you're able to do those first two things, step three is to implement a gratitude presence, endowage and gratitude thoughts consistently.

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Start with playing mind games with gratitude, and what I mean by that is we all go to the restroom. I love sharing this with my clients we all go to the restroom. Each time you go to the restroom, have a gratitude thought. Gratitude thoughts take literally less than three seconds to have. So teach your mind, play games with your mind.

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Going into the restroom, you gotta have a gratitude thought. Create the awareness around that. Or if you're driving, every time you come to a stoplight you gotta have a gratitude thought. Or if you're going into the kitchen, gotta have a gratitude thought. Manipulate your mind to create more action around gratitude.

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So then what starts to happen is you have the Gremlin who's chirping, always chirping. This negativity, the positive thoughts, offsets the negative chirping. But you need to build more of that consistently, and so that's the manipulating your mind with creating gratitude presence. And that's just Examples of what I shared and how you can create these gratitude thoughts and you do it consistently. You can also Listen to music, go and walk, play with your pets, whatever it is that works for you, that generate, that Generates gratitude for yourself.

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So start there with these three steps can really start to help Align you and increase your motivation for whatever it is, and you apply the motivation because in all different areas of our lives we have different levels of motivation. In some areas of our life we may not be as motivated in other areas, and these three steps are Are ways that you can start to increase motivation in any areas of your life. But it starts with acknowledging and identifying those limiting beliefs, those interpretations, to use those, those assumptions and those Gremlins, that negative inner chatter, voice chatter that's consistently chirping in your ear. So there you have it. Get with me anytime. Hope this was helpful. Talk to you soon.

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Thank you for joining me in this episode of. Let's think about it your time and attention are greatly Appreciated. If you found value in today's discussion, I encourage you to subscribe on your favorite Podcast platform. Remember the journey of self-improvement is ongoing and I'm here to support you every step of the way. Connect with me on social media for updates and insights. You can find me on Instagram and Facebook at coach mode, coaching or LinkedIn at Maurice Maybury, or visit my website at Maurice Maybury comm for exclusive content. Until next time, keep reflecting, keep growing and, most importantly, keep believing in yourself. Remember the most effective way to do it is to do it together. We're making incredible strides toward a better and more empowered you, so thank you and I'll see you in our next episode.